Are you guaranteed to become a great soccer player? Are you destined for that elusive contract that guarantees you and your family financial security for the rest of your lives? Young players these days seem to believe that everything will be handed to them on a silver platter. That somehow, somewhere and someone will magically place the contract right under their nose like a gift from God. But get ready for this because you’re not going to like it.
The real truth and the lesson I’m constantly drumming out of this site is that there is only one person responsible for your soccer success. Don’t hesitate to guess, let’s hear them. Is it the coach? Is it your manager? Is it your parents? The only person responsible for your success in soccer is you. That reflection that stares back at you when you look into the monitor while reading this, that’s right, that person is you.
If you want that elusive contract, want to play seniors or just simply want to improve your game, you need to take responsibility for everything that you have experienced so far. This includes your fitness levels, your strength, your motivation, your skills and the list goes on. Can you do it? Can you make yourself accountable and 100% responsible for all your soccer failures and successes?
It’s not easy is it? Everybody and I mean everybody has been conditioned through experiences to blame someone or something. When things go wrong, we blame our parents, our coaches, our supporters, our friends, our partner, the weather and most times the playing surface. Right there is a great snapshot of my soccer career. Always making excuses or blaming someone else. The truth is we never want to look at where the real problem is. The sad thing is you don’t even need to search for the problem because most of the times it’s you. Sounds harsh doesn’t it, but prove me wrong.
Do you really want to become that soccer player you’ve dreamt of? Are you willing to pay the ultimate price to get there? If you want to become that star player, the next Ronaldo, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life. This means giving up all your excuses, all those injury stories, all the reasons why you can’t, why you haven’t and all those outside influences and circumstances. You have to give them up forever. Can you do this? Sorry if I laugh because I don’t believe you.
What position are you in?
“I play midfield” you insist.
That’s not the position I’m talking about. You have to take the position that you have always had the power to take. To make things different, to practice and get it right, to score goals and get the desired results. Why haven’t you taken this position or stance already? Could it be that you’re scared? Could it be that you’re just a pretender with big pipe dreams?
For whatever reason you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why? Only you do! But that doesn’t matter. The past is the past and it makes for a great sob story. Wait let me get some tissues for you. All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose, that’s right it’s a choice to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you during your soccer journey.
So next time you get benched, don’t make the squad, get delisted, you will ask yourself,
- Why did this happen?
- What was I thinking?
- What was I lacking?
- What did I say or not say?
- How did I get the coach to act that way?
- What do I need to do differently next time?
Can you see and feel the difference? It’s always about you, not someone else.
Blaming someone or something is a waste of time. No matter how much fault or blame you have for someone else and regardless how much you blame him, it will not change you or your situation. Concentrate on the I’s and the rest will fall into place.
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