Youth Soccer, Sugar Coating and the Self-Esteem

Youth Soccer- Soccer Lies

So many, loving, but misguided soccer parents have fed many souls to the status quo. Over protective and too demanding are two great ways to destroy your child’s self esteem. Courtesy of some psychology literature that was written in the late 70’s. After blowing some old dust from this little gem, I continued to read and couldn’t help relate some of these behaviours to youth soccer. Lets begin. Self-esteem is often seen as something that players have or don’t have. Where having self-esteem Continue Reading

Soccer Advice: Don't Worry, Just Panic

It’s half an hour before the biggest game of the season and you start to feel nervous. What do you do? If you don’t know what to do, and you’re scared, might as well panic. Will this help? Getting scared, fearing the worst, mismanaging your imagination seems to be the first rule of being a member of the human race. Why would soccer players be any different? It seems in soccer and in life, panicking is an acceptable substitute for clear thinking, planning and taking action. I remember Continue Reading

Soccer Tips: Don't Listen To Your Coach And Destroy Your Fears

Coaches mean well when they say, “Don’t worry, there is nothing to be afraid of it’s all in your head.” This kind of encouragement helps for a split second but does nothing to conquer our fears. Let’s be honest, both you and I know this kind of encouragement doesn’t really work. Those soothing words from our coach might settle us down for that split second but the reality is that it does not eliminate our fears or even help build our confidence. For anyone that is not convinced, fear is real. Continue Reading

Soccer Performance- Are You The Big Fish In The Small Pond?

Soccer provides a platform of duality which makes it both challenging and amusing. The world we live in today is full of duality, you cannot escape it. You can't have good without bad, you can't have rich without poor and you definitely can't have winning without losing. Soccer like any other sport has a positive and a negative side. Our competitive nature which strives for perfection can be seen as a positive. But for every positive, there must be a negative. While players strive to become the Continue Reading

Soccer Tips- How To Become A Jedi Knight?

The best players in the world make mistakes, miss penalties and get sent off. The most gifted players have a strong grip on the fundamentals of soccer and possess super human skills. But all this counts for nothing if they cannot handle pressure. If they have mental, emotional and lifestyle issues these will inevitably cripple a soccer player and send him on a downward spiral towards the bench. To perform at your peak you need to be physically strong, have a high level of fitness, be flexible Continue Reading

Soccer Science And Soccer Success- The Real Reason Why You Will Never Make It.

Soccer Science and Soccer Success. What keeps you from playing for the Soccer Team of your dreams? What keeps you from starting the new training/ coaching regime you've been planning for years? Why do you keep missing those training sessions? What prevents you from doing whatever it takes to make your Soccer Life exactly as you've imagined it? Even though you know what actions are needed to succeed and that all these actions would benefit you and allow you to play at the highest level, you fail Continue Reading

Soccer Psychology: How Good Is Your "Inner Coach"?

One of the first things you must understand if you are going to develop the mind of a champion for yourself as a player, coach or as a soccer parent is the idea that all performance is self-fulfilling. Before you run off and find a dictionary let me explain this concept for you. This idea revolves around the theme of "you get what you expect as a player, coach or a soccer player". On a personal level, if you go into a match expecting to play like rubbish, the chances of you under performing Continue Reading